When you’re a kind, caring, and generous person, you may have difficulties with knowing when to stop and rest. You give and give to others, feeling happy at their happiness, and following the Lord’s guidance to help those in need. Yet there’s still a need for balance. You’ve got to replenish yourself, so that you stay healthy and happy. You need to receive, so that you have something to give.
‘Boundaries’ refers to the awareness of your feelings, such as realizing when you’re tired and then pausing to rest. Being aware of the feeling that someone is taking advantage of your kindness, and praying for the strength to say no.
As an empathetic person, you may notice yourself carrying the weight of the world. You may worry about others, and take on their emotional burdens. Having healthy boundaries prevents you from absorbing other people’s emotions. After all, you can help others more readily as a healthy, happy, and energized person. Being down in the dumps doesn’t help others to be happy.
To have healthy boundaries, here’s a supportive prayer: “Dear God, I want to be helpful, as you guide me to be. Please work through me, Lord, and let me not rely upon my own strength or will, but to completely lean upon your strength and will. I will check with you before making decisions or taking action, and I will follow your guidance in the best way to be helpful. Thank you for helping me to have balance.”
And here’s a supportive scripture: “For all who have entered into God’s rest have rested from their labors, just as God did after creating the world. So let us do our best to enter that rest.”
Setting clear boundaries is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive and caring and not to mention allowing you to be your best, most happiest self. Boundaries set the limits for acceptable behavior from those around you, determining whether they feel able to put you down, make fun, or take advantage of your good nature.
Clearly established boundaries help us to take care of ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually. Our boundaries help us to become less concerned about how we are viewed and more satisfied with the perceptions we have of ourselves.
Where are you feeling your boundaries are being jeopardized? Are you focusing too much on other people’s needs rather than your own? Comment below.