“Being alone is my happy healing place.” – Lenora Scurry

There’s something so soothing and healing about being alone, especially once you discover how it can change your life.

Before I began my self-love journey, I hated being alone. I felt unloved, unwanted, lost, and miserable. Then I found this article on how being alone is therapeutic for you and the major role alone time plays in our lives. So, I began the journey of being alone and loving it. I have since dined alone, gone to the theater alone, and even camped alone for four days. Now my alone time is very precious to me and I make sure nothing interferes with that.

You must change your mindset in order to change your life, so I have listed five affirmations below to help you overcome the fear of being alone. I encourage you to be consistent and speak these as often as you can, especially in the beginning. I hope these will motivate you and help you discover the joy of being alone. Also, it would be helpful to print out the five affirmations below and post them at your desk, on your bathroom mirror, or wherever they will be visible to you.  Say them out loud numerous times a day.

Feeling Lonely? Check out these affirmations:


  1. I love me.

Someone once suggested to me to look in my mirror every time I walked by and say, “I love you.” I thought this was one of the dumbest things I had ever heard, but I thought what the heck I’ll try it. I looked in the mirror directly into my eyes and said, “I love you.” It was awkward and I felt foolish, but I promised myself that for 30 days I would commit to it and I did. After about 10 days, I started feeling a shift. After 20 days, I was actually moved to tears because I was feeling a genuine love for myself that I had never felt. After 30 days I was hooked, and to this day I still practice it. Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.

2. I am enough.

Does this sound like something you would say?

“I don’t want to go by myself.”
“I can’t go there without a date.”
“I don’t like to travel by myself.”

Those statements leave so much open. Whatever it is that you are looking for in your life: a partner, a companion, etc., it’s time to stop complaining and start speaking positive! When you start telling yourself that you are enough, you are training your mind to see that loneliness is not an issue because you are the source of the fulfillment you are craving in your life.

  1. I attract positive people in my life.

Maybe you are going to a wedding and you don’t have a date. Maybe you are wanting to try something new and wished you had someone to go with you. When you voice what it is you want, then you will attract those people into your life. When you speak powerful affirmations that you are worthy of having positive people in your life, then it’s those positive people you are attracting that create the meaningful relationships you are looking for. You are now loving yourself and allowing yourself to be fully loved. With an open heart full of happiness, gratitude, and love – the thought of loneliness completely disappears.

4. I am worthy.

Yes, you are, beautiful lady. Don’t let loneliness get you into a rut of comparing yourself to others. When you perceive what others have that you don’t, you will stay in a state of continual loneliness. When you tell yourself that you are worthy of true love, you will bring more love into your life. If you understand that you are worthy of love, you will speak and believe it. Stay focused on what you have and not what you don’t have.

5. Being alone is rewarding and comforting.

When you learn to be alone, you will start to notice your stress level decreasing. Your mind starts to become clearer and you are more creative and productive. You will be more in touch with yourself and feel much happier. You will also feel more capable to handle whatever comes your way.


As you learned, being alone is not something negative; it is a must for health and wellbeing. It can feel very uncomfortable at first, but just like anything else, if you keep at it you will be greatly rewarded.

If you’re interested in learning more about why being alone is good for you. Click here https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201410/the-importance-being-alone

Lenora Scurry is a self-love coach and motivational speaker dedicated to teaching women how to practice unconditional self-love.  If you struggle with self-love, visit our website to download our free gift “5 Steps to Loving Yourself Right Now.”

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