It takes half your life before you discover it’s a do-it-yourself project – Napoleon Hill
There is something cathartic about doing things for yourself, especially if you normally wait on someone to do it for you.
A friend and I went on a trip and we stopped at the store on the way to the condo. I saw these beautiful bouquets of flowers and I said to her, “I wish someone would buy me flowers.” As soon as I said it, it was like a bolt of lightning hit me. I looked at her and said, “I don’t need someone to buy me flowers, I’ll buy my own damn flowers.” So, I picked the biggest, prettiest bouquet of flowers they had and bought them for myself. Every time I walked by those flowers it brought me such a sense of pride and happiness. So many times, we wait for others to show us our value when we should be doing that for ourselves.
Below are 5 things we can do for ourselves instead of waiting for others.
Whether you are in a relationship or single, whether you have friends or not, you will learn to love to do things for yourself and by yourself.
- Go to a Movie
I refused to go to a movie by myself until a few years ago. It felt uncomfortable at first, but once the movie started, I forgot about everyone and everything. You also don’t have to share your snacks and you get to choose the movie you want.
- Dining out Solo
This was a hard one for me because of the trauma I suffered regarding my food addiction and the fact that I was overweight. I feared people would be judging me and saying things like “She has no one to go out to eat with her; how sad.” Or “Look how fat she is; she doesn’t need to be eating out.” As my self-love grew, I decided I was not going to let others, nor my negative thoughts dictate to me how I would live my life. Now I LOVE going out to eat by myself. I take a book and my journal, and I find a nice seat; I eat a good dinner and then I read and write in my journal, or I just sit and watch people. It is so relaxing and therapeutic.
- Set the Dinner Table
I thought this one was silly and really didn’t think it would make a difference, especially since I live alone, but I tried it one night and it was quite nice. I placed a beautiful tablecloth on the table, lit a few candles, laid out the fine china, and served my tea in a wine glass. No, it’s not the same as having someone sitting across from you to laugh and chat with. However, it helped me realize that sometimes we just have to make the best of it, and I actually enjoyed it.
- Go to the Lake or Secluded Spot
This one was no problem for me. I love nature, so I packed myself a tiny cooler with lunch and some drinks. I also packed a bag with a couple of books, my journal, a magazine, and a crossword puzzle. I took a small side table, my comfy lounge chair, and a soft blanket to cover it and headed to the lake. I found a beautiful, quiet spot near the water in the shade, and I set up my chair and table. I prayed, meditated, read, took a short walk, and even napped for a bit. I went home feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.
- Travel Solo
Again, another hard one for me, but all of these things I’m suggesting will help to clear your mind, and in the midst of it all, find yourself. One good thing about traveling solo is you can do what you want when you want. There is something about solo traveling that helps you to become more self-confident and self-reliant.
Get up and get out ladies! Don’t waste your life waiting for someone to make you happy – that’s your job!
What are some ways or things you can do for yourself instead of waiting for someone to do it for you or with you? Please comment below.
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