For some reason, these last few days I have really been pondering how I raised my daughter.

I made so many mistakes and now that she is grown and has kids of her own, I don’t want her to make those same mistakes.

I don’t want you to make those mistakes either.

What I’ve come to realize is that I have been expressing that to her in the wrong way.

I heard a saying once “you can’t remedy something by condemning it.”

Even though my intentions weren’t to put down or condemn, that’s exactly what I was doing.

As a single mother (and back then having OCD issues), I spent:

⭐️ Too little time listening

⭐️ Too little time snuggling

⭐️ Too little time reading a story

⭐️ Too little time being present

⭐️ Too little time just allowing her to be.

And as she became an adult, I spent:

⭐️ Too little time listening

⭐️ Too little time encouraging

⭐️ Too little time understanding

⭐️ Too little time accepting her for exactly who she is.

Mothers, love your children right where they are and for who they are.

Don’t try to fit them in a mold of what society thinks they should be.

Let them express themselves and encourage them to feel good about it so that they will learn unconditional love and know their worth.

I can’t change what has already happened. All I can do is change my interactions with her now and pray that the mess-ups I made don’t trickle down to my sweet grandbabies.

I hope this helps you. ❤️